5 Holiday Habits to Rethink This Holiday Season
The holidays are a magical time
Holidays are filled with wonder, connection, and traditions that warm the heart. As parents, we all want to create beautiful memories for our children, but sometimes, in the midst of all the excitement, we may find ourselves making decisions that could use a second look. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and forget that this season can also be overwhelming for our children. Here are five holiday habits to rethink this season, not as a critique, but as gentle reminders to make the holidays a little more joyful and a lot less stressful for everyone.
1. Gifts Are Not a Bargaining Chip
We’ve all heard (or maybe even said), “If you don’t behave, I’ll take away your presents!” While this might feel like a quick fix in the moment, it sends a conflicting message. Gifts are a symbol of love and generosity, not something to be dangled conditionally. Instead, let’s use the holidays to reinforce positivity, trust, and the unconditional love we want our children to feel.
2. Santa Shouldn’t Feel Scary
Sitting on Santa’s lap can be a cherished tradition for many families, but it’s not for everyone. If your child seems uncomfortable, anxious, or downright scared, it’s okay to skip it. Honor their boundaries and find other ways to celebrate the magic of the season, like writing letters to Santa or watching a holiday movie together. The memories you create will still be meaningful.
3. Meltdowns Are Part of the Season
The bright lights, packed schedules, and sheer excitement of the holidays can be overstimulating. When your child has a meltdown, take a deep breath and remind yourself: they’re not giving you a hard time; they’re having a hard time. Show them patience and understanding, and create moments of calm amidst the chaos. These small pauses can be grounding for both of you.
4. Affection Should Always Be a Choice
While it might seem courteous to prompt your child to hug or kiss a relative as part of family greetings, it’s essential to recognize and respect their comfort level and personal boundaries. Allowing your child to choose how they want to show affection—whether it’s a wave, a high-five, or simply saying goodbye—teaches them several important lessons:
- Their Feelings Matter: Respecting their choice reinforces that their emotions and preferences are valid.
- Autonomy: They learn that they have control over their own body and how they interact with others, which is a key aspect of personal autonomy.
- Self-Trust: By honoring their boundaries, you’re teaching them to trust their instincts and feel confident in expressing what feels right for them.
This approach helps your child build a strong foundation of self-respect and sets the stage for healthy boundaries and relationships in the future.
5. Not Every Moment Needs an Audience
The holidays are full of emotions—tears of joy, moments of overwhelm, and everything in between. While it’s tempting to share every highlight (or lowlight) on social media, consider what’s sacred. Some memories are meant to be private, cherished within the circle of your family. Protecting these moments allows them to hold even more meaning.
Embracing the Heart of the Holidays
As parents, we have the power to shape the holiday experience for our children. By focusing on connection, empathy, and respect, we can create traditions that truly embody the spirit of the season. Let’s slow down, listen to our children, and make this holiday one that leaves them feeling loved, supported, and understood.
This season, let’s pause and reflect—not just on what we give, but on the values and experiences we share.
Wishing you and your family peace, joy, and connection this holiday season! 🎄✨






